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True?

How Many Single Mothers?

Here’s a little fact for you - according to the US Census 2010: About 39 percent of births in 2010 were to single, separated or divorced women. And almost 10 million single mothers were living with children younger than 18.  

That's a lot of Single Mums out there!

Thanks to Evie at:

http://momsolo.com/

for these facts. Read her blog, it's good!


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Top 10 Ways I Was a Perfect Mom Until I Had Kids

Before I had kids, I possessed many ideas about what kind of parent I would be. Below are ten of those assumptions -- and the reality that followed, post-kids.

1. I will not bribe my kids. They will behave because they have such great internal moral compasses, and complying will be what they want to do.

Reality: I will let you eat Hershey's Kisses for breakfast if you stay in your bed tonight. I will take you anywhere you want to go if you will just stay in your bed tonight.

2. I will maintain appropriate boundaries in the bathroom.

Reality: Most days, I use the bathroom with three little faces watching my every move. The upside? There is always someone nearby to run and get a new roll of toilet paper when I'm stranded.

3. My kids will leave the house with their hair combed neatly and wearing clothes that match.

Reality: We hit a low last summer when Annie Rose insisted on wearing one snow boot and one flip-flop to Target, happily limping her way through the aisles. An astonishing number of old ladies asked if I was aware that her shoes didn't match. "Yes, thank you for your concern," I replied.

4. I will control my potty mouth in front of the kids.

Reality: Oh shit, the fire alarm is going off again! Damnit, the dinner is burning. Shit! Shit! Shit! My girls reply, "At least it's better than Christmas Eve, when Daddy caught on fire." (True story.)

5. I will spend time taking care of myself even after I have kids.

Reality: I take a shower every three or four days, if I'm lucky. A brown Crayola marker is a lot faster and cheaper than getting my roots colored (but try to explain to a 4-year-old why Mommy is allowed to scribble with markers in her hair). And my health club might as well apply for 501c3 status, since I give them a monthly donation.

6. I will model healthy conflict resolution skills, and I will be gracious when I am right.

Reality: I have been known to chant "I was right! You were wrong!" to my husband as I sing and march around the kitchen, doing a victory dance.

7. I will share, and thus my kids will be good sharers, too.

Reality: Get out of my makeup, girls! It's mine! Get out of my toiletries!

8. My kids will only eat wholesome, balanced meals with one reasonable dessert after dinner.

Reality: Fine, you may have a bowl of ice cream for "breakfast dessert." It's got calcium, right? And all the good milk fat that your growing brain needs! Here, have a second helping.

9. We will be on time for school, appointments, classes and playdates.

Reality: How is it that everyone is up three hours before school starts and we are the last ones to arrive?

10. My kids will see me as an empowered woman and a role model of how women can achieve success outside of the house.

Reality: If I got hit by a bus tomorrow, my tombstone would say, "Here lies Carrie. Now who will do the laundry?"

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What Women Really Mean

- WHEN A WOMAN SAYS THIS:

          "I want a sensitive guy..."

- WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS THIS:

"I want a guy who can be sensitive to MY feelings."

She does NOT want a guy who is sensitive in the way of breaking down in tears on a regular basis, or always "Sharing his feelings and heart" with a woman.

It may sound cold and old-fashioned, but this is true: Women don't feel attraction - gut-level, stop-her-heart attraction - for sensitive new-age guys.

You see women know that they live in a rather volatile and bumpy ride of emotions a great deal of the time, and they need someone who can ground them and give them a feeling of safety.

The opinions of Carlos Xuma.

http://www.datingdynamics.com/dating-tips-for-men-articles/guide-to-understanding-women.php

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Inspirational Quotes for Single Working Moms

As Golda Meir said, "At work, you think of the children you have left at home. At home, you think of the work you've left unfinished. Such a struggle is unleashed within yourself. Your heart is rent."

Don't swim against the current. Just know that you are doing what you have to do, and you're doing it as well as you are able. You're not Superwoman and no one expects you to be.

Single working moms are teaching their kids a solid work ethic; you're teaching them that we don't just have things handed to us, and have to work for the things we want. If they are properly cared for while you're out earning the money you need to get by, why should you feel guilty? James Baldwin is famously quoted as saying, "Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them."Make the most of the time you do get to spend with them, and know that while you're working, you're taking care of their physical needs AND teaching them an important life lesson.

And finally... "Working mothers are guinea pigs in a scientific experiment to show that sleep is not necessary to human life." - Anonymous

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Being A Parent Isn't Always Easy - Agree?

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What Can You See?

I can’t tell anyone to be kinder to their parents (except for our own children, when they’re jumping on our heads). But I can invite everyone to cut all parents some slack. 

Whether you have children or not, whether your parents are still around or not, stop thinking about what you can see – a frazzled mum or dad, snapping at their child; a parent, letting you down – and imagine for a moment what you can’t see: a lone adult trying to do everything on their own, with no back up; someone trying to keep a tiny human from running into the road, when they've only had two hours’ sleep in the last three days; a loving carer who had to drive across a continent while their ‘other half’ is nowhere to be seen, and certainly not when their joint children are behaving like Tasmanian Satans on horse burgers.

Just take a moment, and give them a smile, or a hand, or just restrain yourself from judging them because they can totally see it on your face.